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I have been a slacker mom these days! It feels awful to be a bad mom, I mean the one role I really cherish and thank God everyday for, if I cant keep up this role, what am I doing really?? have no clue really.. Anyway it is all due to the work pressure and also the sudden fitness rage I am in, so the evenings when I spend time with the kids are spent at the fitness center with the kids either at the pool or at the Kids daycare.Β  All this is however just my ramblings, my happy kids are not bothered by my absences and are busy in their own way. In fact it makes me wonder if parenting is overrated and as long as the basic needs are met, the kids just grow on their own and build their own personalities with no interference from either parents. πŸ™‚ A point worth pondering for a later day…

A is getting to be more and more independent and is even showing signs of being ready for potty training but it is me who is not taking the initiative to support him!! He is getting to be such a stickler for routines, and doesn’t want them upset in any way. He even has the order in which I should dress him for outside, the jacket first, then the gloves, that too right hand followed by left and then the cap. If I change any of this, he protests! πŸ™‚ And the minute he comes home, he goes to the closet to change from his outside clothes. In many ways he is so much like my DH and so we have S who is like me not that organized and A like V, totally freaking out with changes to routines

Some day last week, S was ready for school a full 10 minutes early and I thought why not comb her hair! Yes, S just leaves her hair down and claims that she does comb but it never looks like that. But I don’t bother much as anyway with her cap or the hoodie on, it would get ruffled anyway. S got a set of very cute small crab clips from my SIL, so I was just parting her hair in small bunches and used the crab clips generously! It looked quite cute and she was like awww it is so nice Amma. She then said, since it suited her very well, it would suit her daughter as well, so was wondering if I could save those clips for her and pass them to her when she has her daughter and she also wanted me to teach her to do that as well so she can repeat this to her daughter! I was like you just turned 7 Maam! But the best is yet to come, she stopped her talk for a moment and said she had the most brilliant idea ever. And that brilliant idea was to have me born as her daughter in my next life so she doesn’t have to even talk about me and I would know all about me and S when she was my daughter. I had nothing more to add and thankfully the conversation ended as she had to leave then to catch the school bus.

A has his own laptop, a hand-me-down from my DH.. He watches his favorite videos on the laptop, and gets very upset when the laptop hangs up on him!! The other day the system crashed, he was pointing his finger at the laptop and shouted, ‘BAD JOBBB’. It was so cute to watch him do that.. Hez getting very vocal and expressive and very cutely chants ‘Momma Momma’ when I get down from the car say for a quick errand, and keeps chanting much to S and my DH’s dismay, till I get back! At times, A would say “YES” when I ask him if he is ready for lunch, and when he ends up seeing ‘the lunch’ and realizes he really doesn’t want it, would start shouting “No YES Amma” repeatedly!! πŸ™‚

S’s seriously into writing in her diary daily these days and makes such a fuss even if one of us get near it by mistake. But the other day she graciously gave me and my DH one-day passes to look into her diary. The pass even had an expiration date and what to do if it gets misplaced! πŸ™‚ She is reading this Wonders of the World book and is totally hooked onto the Mount Everest and she told me she was going to write a ‘biography’ on the Mount Everest! She is also working on her own dictionary, writing all the new words she is learning cataloged into her notebook as in a dictionary.

S is in the girl scouts and understandably the last few weeks were busy for us with all the cookie-selling. She acted like totally an ambassador for girl scouts and were even coaxing people who said they already had bought from some other girl, she was quick to add, that girl scout cookies were good to be frozen and can be had even 6 months later! She was also addressing the nut allergic, calorie conscious crowd as well.Β  She started selling the cookies around Valentine’s day and was trying to convince people that the cookies would make good Valentine day gift to friends and family! It was really funny watching her achieve her sales goal..

Last week, I had been to her school to meet her teacher for the II semester assessment. S was preparing me the whole day and wanted to know what would I discuss with the teacher. She was also giving offhand remarks about the reflections they do at school when someone does a bad job and she said her teacher may bring that up! I never knew she had reflections till then, so asked her what hers would be about, she was like nothing significant amma just a couple of times when I was chitchatting during activity and stuff like that. She also suggested to me that she will ask her teacher to add a goal for her to not exceed 10 reflections this year she already has 6 and that leaves only 4 more for the rest of the year. She was quite upset later in the evening, when she realized her teacher had not planned to bring about her reflections at all as they were quite minor. She felt she jumped guns unnecessarily!Β  Her teacher and I had quite a laugh about it!

S’s teacher was showcasing to me all that had been worked upon that semester and she showed me a chart with S’s essay on what all she would do if she is elected to be the President. Her teacher pointed out how sensible her points were starting from giving homes to homeless people, and writing laws about not allowing anyone to use swear words ever.Β  She did have a bullet point about building her own ‘WHITE HOUSE’ though!! Then came the most surprising part, looks like all kids had a draft notice first before redoing it in the chart paper. She showed her draft from her journal at school and her draft of things she would do when she becomes the President ran to FOUR whole A4 size sheets! πŸ™‚Β  Both her teacher and I were surprised!! I heard for the second time now from her II grade teacher that S does have ‘President’ material and she may become one in India or here in the US! πŸ™‚ The first time I heard someone tell me S would one day be the President of India was her daycare teacher when she was 3 yrs old; when I laughed at her teacher’s suggestion, her day care teacher ended our Parent-Teacher conference by saying a prayer to God to help us – S’s parents, recognize the potential in S. πŸ™‚

We went to A’s daycare for his conference as well last week and that was quite interesting too! The teacher said he is really getting ready to play with other kids, but he is so sophisticated than other kids in the sense that when the kids fight, he moves away, doesn’t want to get messy even during the MESSY play time! The minute his hands become dirty with paint or play dough, he immediately asks the teacher to wash his hands and then all he does is watch others like a big man! His teacher also said, he is so hung up on routines and will wait for his hands to be washed right after his meal and also wait for his teacher to wash her hands! He never forgets a thing and makes sure he brings home anything that he has taken to school that morning. And here his sister S even forgot to bring her school bag from school the other day! πŸ™‚ It is funny to watch such contrast in them! I guess God just wanted our lives to be interesting all the time, making them both out of entirely different molds!

My in-laws are here with us and both the kids are having lots of fun with them! There is nothing like the pampering you receive from grand parents and they are now enjoying all the extra attention!!

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S and A play together a lot these days and A is such a copy cat and tends to do all that S does and even occasionally wear S’s necklaces! I wonder if I can encourage all this cross dressing.. πŸ™‚ But I guess he will learn on his own and stay away later… Seems too premature to stop him from all the innocent enjoyment…Β  We got S so many stuffed toys when she was growing up, but she wouldn’t play with them much. But A is forever cuddling Mickey mouse, Minnie mouse and Goofy. He cutely holds them to his chest and carries them over to the bed, for his naptime these days. The royal treatment given to CARS has been transferred to the Mickey family now.. πŸ™‚

A is totally into Ice age Scrat, and in the last few weeks would have watched the three parts at least three times! Β  He even seems to follow the story a little bit to our amazement, and his sister also keep narrating the story to him. There is this scene in the Dinosaur part where Sid would mistake an Ox for a cow and try getting milk forΒ  the dinosaur babies. In a minute, he would be running away shouting “I thought you were a female!” S was ‘explaining’ this scene to A and he laughed as if he understood! It is like he doesn’t want to disappoint S, so he plays along with her all the time. I really wish they grow up sharing this special bond always.

As much as S still complains to me about my singular attention to A, she truly is excited when A says new words.. Like the other day we were watching an old video of S and it was her first birthday party, immediately A started singing cutely ‘APPY BDAY TOUU’Β  all in one word. We never knew till that moment he had learnt that. He seems to pick up a lot from his daycare and we learn it in moments like this. S was so excited that she gave a huge hug to him and was telling him she is SO proud of him!!! A was beaming with joy and kept repeating it to get the same attention from her. Those are moments I wish I could freeze forever in my memory.

A’s vocab – at least those we know as of now that he can say :

1. I wan Sheeseee – He says waiting near the Fridge holding a cup and spoon he would take from the dishwasher. Cottage cheese still tops his fav food list, in fact fills the later positions too!Β  πŸ™‚

2. I wan waterrr – He says waterrr with a twist in the R thats so cute and he asks water not for drinking but to

  • either wash his hot wheels car or choo choo train
  • put his bourbon biscuit in and mash it to a gooey and use it to color his toys
  • clean our table, laptops if he can, and then ask for tishu (tissue) to clean them up.

3. Go ouside He takes our hand and leads us to the main door and says “Go ousidee”. If our shoes are outside the closet, he would bring them to us and say “Go ouside” . He is really an outdoorsy person, hates to come back home after shopping trips. He would not even care about his meals when we are out, he can skip meals, naps, anything to be out with us. S used to be like that too; somehow I am blessed with two kids who don’t get cranky even if I change their schedule upside down.

4. Santa Santa, Ho Ho Ho – Holiday time of the year and A now knows the lovable Santa and cutely repeats “Santa Santa, Ho Ho Ho” ,whenever he sees a Christmas tree or any bright setting with shades of green and red in it! πŸ™‚

5. Horshee and Dog – He knows Dog quite well andΒ  Horse is everything that has four legs and not dog! Even elephant is a horshee for him right now.

6. Washsh – The moment there is some cereal or food onΒ  his hand or cheek, he would immediately want to wash up, also he thinks once I wash his face, his food time is done! πŸ™‚ so tries to take that shortcut at times to avoid food…. also he takes tissue from us when his tshirt gets wet and tries to wipe off the wetness!!

7. Stickerr – He loves the stickers he gets at the Drs office and says stickerr over and over till we come home. He holds on to it dearly!

Apart from all this he does talk a lot, but just that we have not figured them out yet!! πŸ™‚

A also watches Toy story, all the three parts and the best is his reaction to the movie scenes. When the mean dog goes after Woody or Buzz, he would close his mouth with his fingers and say Doggg… πŸ™‚ He has the cutest ever fear in his face for Buzz/Woody! For those who follow Tamil movies, his reaction is comparable to Saroja Devi’s ooohh reaction to MGR!

I have to mark 31st Dec 2011 in our lives, as that was the first day A and my DH fought! A was in a yet another naughty spree where he was throwing his toys all around theΒ  living room. My DH raised his voice against him and told him to cleanup, A was all worked up at the reaction and he was non-stop ‘talking’ back to V. He would talk few gibberish sentences, move away from V, may be to take a deep breath (:) and then come back to shout again.. It was soooooooooo cute that I just wanted to lift him and cuddle him. But dint want to break the moment too. V cudn’t help laughing and we all started laughing so hard that A looked at the three of us like, why wud he be part of this lunatic family!! πŸ™‚

Now onto S… Last week when we were traveling in our car, S got so bored with the GPS voice that she said she wished there was a mute setting in the GPS and before I could ask her how we would get the directions then, she said the GPS in the mute setting, should have captioning for what it says and that we should follow that to drive around! πŸ™‚

December was the month S looked forward so much – being her bday month… It did turn out to be awesome for her. She had her dream party at the Y and 14 of her 18 classmates attended her party and with all the holiday sales on, she got the best presents ever! πŸ™‚ She got a beautiful necklace with S as a rhinestone pendant from a boy in her class who apparently according to her, has a crush on her! OMG was my reaction though I didnt show it out. I did not know of the word Crush till I was 17 years old, of course I did know the feeling but dint know the word for it! πŸ™‚ And here my daughter loosely uses it at 7! There is already a generation gap….

The December agenda in her class at school was discussion of holiday traditions. When the teacher has initiated a discussion on Christmas, S had told her that she doesn’t celebrate the holiday and when questioned, had gone on to explain how Diwali is the most important festival for Hindus et al! She has also offered to her teacher that she can call me to come to the class and explain to everyone. Promptly her teacher mailed me about her idea and asked if I can present to the kids some information about Diwali.Β  Just the earlier week, I had substituted for her SS teacher at the Indian school she attends on Saturday. It was a surprise for her to see me at the class that day and she was thrilled to have me there and was beaming all through the class. Her hands shot up for every question and was disappointed I dint pick her up every time! Even after the class, she was telling her friends that it was her mom who was there and she was later asking me if I can do that often! So when she sensed another opportunity at her regular school she had volunteered my services!

Anyway the long story short, with my dear friend G’s help I had a kids-friendly presentation and it was an instant hit at the class. S was again super thrilled and we were both dressed in our ethnic wear at school. Her teacher appreciated S that she was so bold and did not feel shy to be different when they were discussing Christmas and she was asking me how I taught her to be like that. She said most kids wouldn’t want to be different so would just nod for everything. She said S was almost proud when she spoke about Diwali! I was happy hearing that but was thinking, “Lady, you call that pride, but knowing my daughter, it is more like Arrogance! ” πŸ™‚ Anyway jokes apart, I was indeed proud that she was feeling confident enough to tell a diverse crowd about her background!

It is such a blessing to watch the duo grow up and I am enjoying every moment of this!! More to come soon… I still haven’t talked about S’s party and her special month! πŸ™‚

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Scene 1 : S very seriously told A the other day that he really has to learn all about ROMANCE.. The capitalization is for the stress she gave to the word! They both were watching a Tom n Jerry show where Tom fancies a she-cat and Jerry sabotages their date! I was about to ask her what she actually knew about it, but stopped myself as I wasn’t sure I was ready for the answer! πŸ™‚

Scene 2: A and I were waiting for S’s school bus outside our apartment. S comes in and A is all super-excited just seeing the bus and ta-da, she rushes to him and gives him a big bear hug and kisses him in both the cheeks. A beams at me with joy, unsure of how to react to this sudden expression of affection from S! Usually it is A who dotes on S and she hardly pays attention to him! Looks like that day S read a story at school about a mean sister and how she taunts her baby brother, so it had struck her that may be she was being a litttle bit mean to A, hence the special attention. Of course, it goes without saying that she forgot that story part from the next day.. It was just a singular moment of truth for her!!

Scene 3: A runs after a boy in our apartment quite innocently and S shouts after him, “A, you are not supposed to like boys, you have to run after girls! Remember that!”Β  Quite an embarrassing moment, as there were quite a number of people around! Anyway S at least for now thinks heterosexuality is the way to go! SO good for me.. πŸ™‚

Scene 4: I am in the kitchen (as always :() and I hear A laughing aloud!! I run to him and there he is holding a book upside down and finding the characters hilarious! May be becoz they were upside down, God only knows, but of late he goes over his books on his own and laughs at certain pages quite knowingly!! It is REALLY a fun sight to behold… He is growing up to be a very happy and contended child, very much like his sister.

Scene 5: S sometimes fixes her own breakfast. She was looking for butter one day in the fridge and found out much to her dismay that V has kept the butter in the freezer by mistake! She gave us both a warning about not to repeat this again, and still was not convinced that we would remember that. She wrote on bright fluorescent post-its and stuck on the fridge. Her message was”

Dear Mommy and Daddy, The butter goes in the fridge! NOT THE FREEZER!!! From: S

And she also had a Post-it on the freezer door that said “See Notes Please” and an arrow mark pointing down to her post-it. As a matter of adding redundancy to prevent the mistake, she had another post-it next to the Fridge door! πŸ™‚

Here is the picture of her post-its.. Isn’t she funny?

Scene 6: S asks this question to us out of the blue. “Did you guys give birth to me, so you will always have someone to scold?” She was so serious that we just couldn’t dismiss that remark.Β  Granted we have been a little demanding once her school began, and mostly it had to do with keeping her things organized and be a little more careful around A and not litter stuff that A should not be playing with. Looks like she has really taken all that to heart and has thought it over and cornered us with that question. After an hour long discussion, she was kind of ok, still we are going to be watching for early signs before she bursts out again! It is really tough to be tough with her! πŸ™‚

Scene 7: S thinks making spelling mistakes is alright as the rules are very stupid according to her. Why would you have a silent letter when you are not going to pronounce the letter. And how come two exact same spellings be pronounced in two different ways based on the context. She says if someone has made these silly rules, she can make her own rules too! These days kids live by their own rules, I mean they just dont take anything for granted and need explanations! Talking of rules, she has also prepared her own set of Math rules! πŸ™‚ All sorts of cheat codes already like adding a 9 to a single digit number is reduce the number by 1 and add 10. It was quite an interesting read, the way her mind worked. Nothing defies logic, still it was her own logic and inference.. In the same context, one homework paper from school had a list of single digit additions and at the end there was a space to explain the reasoning for the answer to at least one of the problems in the list. S’s answer in the note was “I dont know, I just knew the answer.” See this.. πŸ™‚ She has been doing single digit additions already in her last school may be she was bored. I usually never correct her home work as a principle. If she makes a mistake, it is up to the teacher to correct her and believe me kids react better to the teacher’s comments than the mother’s!

Scene 8:The moment our car pulls into our parking lot, A starts crying. He hates to get back home, he would rather keep going someplace or the other rather than returning! Even when we just lift him and bring him in, he flatly would refuse to take his coat and shoes off, thinking there would still be a chance of going out as long he doesn’t change! It is getting to be too much trouble everyday after he is back from the daycare. We have to perform all kinds of theatrics to get him to remove them! This, from a boy who refused to sit on the car seat and used to cry even when we were traveling for an hour day trip, what can I say!! With kids, change is the only constant phenomenon!

Scene 9: A has discovered the world of communication by actions! He is mastering the ability to communicate perfectly without using a single word, with just actions and prompting sounds that tell us if we have understood him or not. He would take us by holding our finger to wherever the place of action is and then point to what he wants and then do an action, like drink to tell us what he wants. If we pick up the wrong item, he would vehemently shake his head from side to side and hit once on his head to highlight how stupid we are not understanding him! πŸ™‚Β  If we do pick up the right item, he would clap his hands to appreciate our good job! πŸ™‚Β  Whenever he does a good job, we would clap and encourage him and also say Good job, now he uses the same tactic with us without actually saying ‘Good job’! πŸ™‚ Hez such a funny little fellow!

Scene 10: A does this scrunched-up nose routine when he is up to some mischief! When we are all watching some show on the TV quite seriously, he would just march in and switch off the TV main button and turn to us and would scrunch-up his nose and his eyes would glitter with the joy ofΒ  doing something worthwhile grabbing our attention! And the moment we start saying Bad Job A, he would get sober and the second he hears No as part of any phrase, No A, or No way, or Not a good job, he would crack up and close his eyes with his little hands and fake cry would start! I am smiling even as I am writing this.. It would be so funny to watch him that we would crack up and laugh, then he would immediately stop the cry and flash his million-dollar smile at us and run to us! Needless to add, S will be like, ‘You guys are never tough on him..” πŸ™‚

I guess I am really going overboard with all this stuff.. There seems to be so much to add but I guess they can wait for another post!

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