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S and A have had their sudden growth spurts in the last few months! S seems to have entered her Tweens and A is already a pre-schooler! S turned 8 in Dec (I had to change ‘this month’ to Dec, just shows how long this post has been in drafts!! ) and it doesnt require a special mention that she was waiting for this a long time and from the first of the month, she has been excited about her big day!! She had a deal with us that instead of a party, she would get an Ipad and after her deal was final, whenever she saw something she liked she would be like if I had a party, may be I would have got this and may be now that I dont have a party, you can remember and get this for my next birthday! She had a quiet birthday, I had a treasure hunt organized for her with my dear friend G’s help and she loved it! A was all the more excited and he thought it was his bday too! S loved her gifts and she celebrated her bday with her two close friends going to a movie and with a sleepover.

A has become one smart cookie, knows all his alphabets, he doesn’t say M for W or W for M anymore, he seems to have mastered his letters and numbers! He has even started identifying the double digit numbers , mostly just 95, 43 – the Cars 2 movie car numbers! So I dont have to feel guilty anymore about not teaching him anything, he seems to learn on his own! πŸ™‚ So at his daycare, they have moved him to the Preschool section though he is not yet three! They say he is boredΒ  to spend time with little toddlers and is ready to move up! The only thing that was stopping them from moving him last year itself, is that he isn’t potty trained yet! Like how he learnt his alphabets, I am waiting for some magic to occur so hez suddenly trained! So far it hasn’t happened but am still keeping my fingers crossed! After a particularly smelly poop, he says ‘Oh my goodness, Amma, come with me to the bathroom!’.. At least he is repulsed enough to change immediately. Also he uses potty term quite loosely when he is not ready to leave for school. He would say, I need to go potty and sit in the can leisurely singing his songs!!! I would be late for a call and would be shouting at him to be done already and he will be then say, it is not yet time and leave the bathroom!! πŸ™‚

You ask the duo to search for say a missing remote, S would just pretend to search moving from couch to couch and A would move in the room, literally calling out ‘Remote, where are you? ‘ , with his hands in his face, calling out gesture!! At times I wonder if they make fun of me in their own way. They always seem to be conspiring against me and my DH! I am just glad they get along well enough to at least team against us… πŸ™‚ S gets mad at A when she has her friends for playdates or sleepovers when they just adore A and not play with her.. They want to include A but clearly that’s not S’s idea of an ideal play date, so she complains to me that I should take him out when she is with her friends!

I went on an onsite trip for a work week and was away from the duo for 5 days; I did find out one thing, that I have been overrating my importance in the family! My DH had done an amazing job handling the kids and they dint skip school or even one extra curricular class that week and anytime I called he sounded so calm, unlike me who would be at the end of wits when he goes on business trips. A cried a little on the first day, but then he just got adjusted, I tried not to talk to him over phone. Now whenever I trouble him with food, he says Amma you go to Columbus! πŸ™‚ So now he thinks he can actually get rid of me this way!! S has her own email id now, that she uses with our supervision. She sent cute emails to me when I was away!! Love her little chat messages that she sends from her laptop (our old one that she uses). She had also left a very nice miss you and love you note in my luggage for me to find when I was there. I showed it around to everyone at work proudly!! When A met me at the airport, he was overwhelmed with emotion and kept kissing my hand all the way back home. It was such a lovely feeling to be missed and loved by him! Halfway home, he did realize suddenly and asked me for the gifts I promised before I left. πŸ™‚

It has been so long since I started this post and right now I can almost say, the potty train has left our home!! πŸ™‚ A is potty trained and wears pull-ups only for his naps and that too for our sake!! He has become a private person and the minute he enters the bathroom, he would be like, Shoo Shoo Amma, Go away, I will call you when am done! πŸ™‚ He has become one ‘Mr. Talkative’ and talks for hrs together, he launches his cars from a rocket (S’s pencil box) and shouts a countdown sequence followed by ‘Blast Off’.. S admires his talking and tells me ‘Can you believe we were worried about him not talking at 18 months?’ It feels good to know that she was concerned too and that she is such a good big sister appreciating all his milestones!

This year on A’s birthday S has two competitions and even the small party we may have it is going to be either before or after his birthday. The ever thoughtful S says she is ready to pull out of the competition for his birthday sake. When I told her it is okay, she says we would be a little harsh on A when he keeps running around in the competition area. She doesn’t think it is fair on her part to give him a hard time on his birthday! That was the sweetest thing she has ever said as a big sis so far!! I am really proud of her and I don’t know what we are doing, I think we should continue the same, so the kids remain thoughtful! πŸ™‚

S proved once again that she is a super girl by performing in the Minnesota kids nite organized by friends here in the twin cities. She hardly practiced at home but rendered a very confident performance at the show. The best part was when she actually slipped in a place, but rolled her eyes are though it was a technical difficulty of the Karaoke track! She made us proud and we were beaming!Β  Seeing her performance, her piano teacher has told she has to sing when she plays her piano from now on and she is progressing at a very fast pace in her Piano too!

S had to move schools yet again due to our home move and as always she embraced change so easily, I got to learn that from her, how she is able to see the positives of a move and get on so easily. I am still missing our old neighborhood but she has made so many new friends in her school and she is also placed in a gifted and talented classroom and her teacher thinks she is AWESOME!Β  πŸ™‚ A loves S’s new school and keeps telling he wants to go to that school though he has to wait for 2 more years! Inspite of our move, we are still sending A to his old pre school as unlike S he wouldnt appreciate a change that well and I dont want all the potty training efforts to backfire if he is not comfortable at a new place. A loves his teacher Kelsey so much that he even picks up Tshirts in the morning and says ‘Ms. Kelsey likes this shirt and I have to wear it to school’!! So unless Ms. Kelsey moves to a school in our neighborhood it is going to be difficult to pull him away!

This morning at the dining table I was feeding him lunch and had to step out to take a phone call. When I was back I saw him playing with some quarters and dimes and when I fed him the next mouth, he stops me saying, ‘Amma, I am not paying money for food’. So much for maternal love, he thinks I am running a cafeteria! πŸ™‚

Life is true unadulterated bliss with the duo around!! Love them both to the moon and back…..

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A has become an eloquent speaker in the last few months. He has something to say at every instance. The moment we park our van and we get down,Β  you can hear him say “What about me?” as though we would abandon him in the van and go away! He asks questions about everything, has started addressing every one by full name and has best buddies at school. Loves to go to school and alternates the toy he takes to school, Mater one day, and Mc Queen the other day. Another standard part of his dressing, is the floppy Thomas, the tank engine hat he just doesn’t part with. He even wears it at bedtime! Disney has taken over our household completely – only this time it is all Disney boy characters. Cars 2 Diapers, Toy story blankets and all t shirts and even night suits sporting Disney characters.

S is enjoyed her summer, reading books by dozens, watching 2-3 movies a week and occasionally at my insistence studied Tamil! I got her into blogging, to encourage her to try comprehension and improve her vocabulary. Here is her blog Summer Rocks . When I suggested to her that she can even review the books she reads, she shot right back that she does not have to do everything the way I do! I knew when to backoff, I just had one condition that she has to run everything by me before she posts anything and that seemed a bottle neck for her, she had a long post “Always Annoying A” about her brother and since I blocked her from posting it, she has stopped working on her blog as a protest, anyway summer is over and school has started. So may be theΒ Summer Rocks will return next summer! πŸ™‚

The best thing during summer was when my sister’s family visited us and it was lovely to see the cousins get together and enjoy!! It was a delight to listen to my nephew A’s British accent and S tried her hand at the accent and even now her favorite pastime is to talk in British accent in public places and make people wonder if she is visiting! She finds it very amusing!Β  S learned Ayarpadi Maaligaiyil song from her favorite uncle and after they left, she learnt the song by heart listening to SPB in Youtube!!

S made us very proud by singing the song at a light music event in local temple here, her very first attempt at Karaoke and she NAILED it!! I was really not sure if she will pull it off, that is sing on her own without cues to begin at the right spots. Being a music illiterate myself, I just offered her the smart phone with markers to be played in a video, but she refused it! The best part was when in that entire crowd, her eyes were only on me as she sung. It was as though my little girl was giving me a solo performance on stage. She sang so gracefully, tilting ever so slightly side to side, smiling and her rendition sounded so confident!! I knew she was scared of the crowd, but no one could have sensed it. I was beaming ear to ear as she looked at me and sang. Only later did I realize may be she thought this meant so much to me, so channeled all her attention on me and was expecting my approval whenever she completed a stanza.Β  I hope I am not turning out to be neurotic mom to her and she has to stretch herself to make me happy. Oh my goodness, Parenting is so difficult, the moment you stress your kid to give the best, it may seem pushy, if you try to tell the kid it is okay not to be first always, you are underestimating the kid and not believing in her! πŸ™‚

It was just a year back, I wrote aboutΒ S’s playdates just soon after she started her schooling here, and now A who is not yet 3 has started getting invitations for play dates. He has two close friends at school, C and G and the three are referred to as theΒ  3 Musketeers and are partners-in-crime!! Seems G has been asking his mom to have A over and the coming Sunday will be A’s first play date and more than him, I am psyched!!Β  My little boy is GROWINGGG…. There is a cute little girl D in his class and when I ask him if she is his friend too, he feels offended and says, “No Mama, she is a GIRL”.. πŸ™‚ I will not forget to quote this line, when he grows up and has his share of GFs!

A has trouble pronouncing ‘F’ and now that he is such a talker it is very funny to hear him say words with F. Like in the morning, he would ask me, “Are you drinking COSSEE Amma?” and later to his dad, “Are you going to OSSICE?”. He asks questions about everything and anything, on the way from his daycare, he would talk non-stop about what happened during his day and if there are any pauses in the middle, he will immediately ask if we know who is going in the car in the next lane. If we answer in negative, he would answer. “Amma, it is SOMEBODY in the car!” as though SOMEBODY is someone he knows. πŸ™‚

Ever since A noticed S taking lunch to school, he has been packing his lunch to daycare too! He has this cute Winnie Pooh bag that was a gift to him and he carries all his cars in that to school everyday. He not longer carries just one toy to school, he chooses the toys privileged enough to go with him to school and he packs them in the bag and then comes to the kitchen for his lunch! It is a staple Chapathi – Indian bread lunch for him. His teachers say he loves the fact that he has his SPECIAL lunch and finishes this before he touches the food offered by the daycare! πŸ™‚ Anything to make my little boy gain some weight. He has been maintaining his weight for so long that I wonder when he is going to cross that magic number he seems to love..Β  The breakfast of the month is now Pancakes, I love the way he asks me for pancakes, with a twirl as he says CAKESΒ  and also eats them only if it is in the shape of Mickey/Minnie Mouse. No other shape is accepted!! πŸ™‚ I tried sneaking some strawberries in it today and I was busted. He refused to even touch them saying the color was not right. Make new pancakes – was the verdict passed! It is SO difficult to fool him!

A is a very orderly person and right around 8.45, he would stop whatever he is doing and say not he is sleepy but ” I have to be sleeping now in the bed” as if everything would be affected if he isnt in bed by 9… He will start packing his again ‘chosen’ toys, pack them in the bag and take them to the bed. The stuffed mickey mouse and Goofy are no longer the pillow pets, now he takes his race track and his cars in the bagΒ  and right next to where he sleeps, he would park all his cars in an orderly fashion, set the bag next to them and then lie down to sleep! Then I need to read 2-3 books to him and he would insist I do not do anything else when I read and have to keep looking at him too! And just before he would start sleeping, he would jump on to my lap(yes, he hasn’t outgrown my lap yet) and then I have to sing the lullaby that I have made up for him. He will bid me to sing ‘HIS SONG’ and suddenly in the middle he may prompt me to sing ‘S’s song’ where her name would be substituted in the song where all i do is praise the duo.. πŸ™‚ What all you end up doing to appease your kids!!!

Here is the picture of his bed tonight, you can notice how neatly he has set the cars down in a row! πŸ™‚

S has moved to a gaming class room this year and loves to go to school everyday. Much to my disappointment, even this year she is not bringing back any homework and they have Nintendo DSs in her class! She learns multiplication with the game “Times Attack” and reads book online and her reading levels are judged in the computer! I don’t even understand how all this will work, I just hope she learns something new at the end of the school year! πŸ™‚ Needless to say, her class teacher is such a hit in the school and kids love to be in that class and S feels very happy she is part of the special class!!

She is now into Enid Blyton – Famous Five series and Nancy Drew stories and is ready to read some classics and not just American kid fiction – Dork Diaries and Diaries of the Wimpy kid series she read over and over as if to memorize every page!! She dint warm up to Tom Sawyer and H Finn though I kept telling her how much I used to love them as a kid. πŸ™‚ In her reading skills, she is several grades above her peers and reads herself to sleep everyday. She doesn’t leave the house without a book in hand and I am so much reminded of my school days!! Those days we had to fight for time to get to story books as we had so much homework from school and I even remember sneaking storybooks in my school books to read. But now, we end up downloading books in Kindle when S finishes the library books!
S’s goes to an Indian school on Saturdays to learn about India and Indian languages and I have volunteered to be the Social Studies teacher this year there and S loves that I am her teacher and shows much enthusiasm at the class. I am happy it is working well, but I end up listening to her advices at the end of the day where she points out where I can better myself. She even told me the other day that I should not encourage the kids to shout out the answers once a kid or two has already raised their hand to answer, because that would discourage the kids who were interested to answer in the first place! Sure enough, I hadn’t thought about that, so I was glad she pointed it out to me! Overall we seem to be getting along well after the rough summer where we spent most of the days together and most days ended with fights and my DH had to mediate between us!! πŸ™‚

Whatever trials and tribulations I may face daily, it is a blessing to be parenting S and A and they are such wonderful kids!! Love them so much that my heart aches…Β  Oh and as always I find it hard to stop once I start!!! I guess the rest have to wait for another post! Been typing for a long time now.. So long Amigos….

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It has been ages since I posted… Summer is keeping us very busy and not to mention engaging the ever energetic kids – one at home enjoying her summer holidays… It is highly impossible to keep her entertained all day! We are checking out library books in dozens every few days in a week and still she completes them all and is ready for more! πŸ™‚ So you can imagine how depleted my available time would become to keep her from cribbing about spending her summer with me at home. I thought I was doing her a favor by having her at home apparently not according to her! πŸ™‚

My dear friend R sent over the much-talked about Immortals of Meluga book to me and another friend here, had the next book with her so it was a jackpot for me to read the first two books of Shiva Trilogy one after the other… Amish Patel has done a great job giving an all new perception to the Hindu mythology (?!) surrounding Lord Shiva. I liked the way he had tied the Sun and Moon Dynasties and also had explanation for the Gods that had a different look with animal heads or multiple hands. Very few fiction writers can produce this kind of complex drama based on mythology, rarer still is that this is a debut novel. So Kudos to Amish!

I have always felt Gods belonged to a race superior to mankind, kind of like super humans who preceded us and during the transition stage is when the super humans were documented as Gods for the religions to flourish. To me this appeals more to my common sense and that doesnt mean I am an atheist. Certain thoughts are best compartmentalized in yourself and to me religion is one such topic. The brain in me looks for logical explanations like Gods as super humans who designed the wonders of the world.Β  The heart and the soul in me still fasts every Thursday as a reminder to my body to meditate over God in the form that appeals to me the most. I still play Suprabhatham and Vishnu Sahasranaman in the mornings and truly believe Sanskrit to be a superior language that doesn’t just convey meaningful thoughts but also triggers positive vibrations and cleanses the place where Sanskrit is spoken. I believe Sanskrit was devised as a language so it will be easier to propagate. That is why, the fights in our epics where just utterance of a Sanskrit Manthra before releasing the arrow, released such energy to affect the intended victim. πŸ™‚

GrowingΒ  up I was quite impressionable when it came to Religion and Spirituality and was always intrigued by anything to do with it. I started my schooling in a Christian school and by the time I was in my seventh grade, my grandmother was worried that I would soon become a Christian, in fact at that stage, I was a Hindu in just my name! I did not use bindis, bangles or earrings and would take candles to the School chapel on the day of my exams and take the melted wax from the candle to the exam hall!! I think IΒ  kind of overdid myself when I started comparing Old and the New testaments and reporting them to my dad. At that point, my parents decided they have had enough and shifted me to an Hindu school!Β  The new school environment was a 360 degree turn from my old school and it took me a while to get acclimatized. And pretty soon, I started visiting Sri Ramakrishna Mutt in Mylapore very regularly and much to my parent’s amazement, there were Vivekananda posters in our bedroom and all the books I won as prizes from the school were either Gospels or teachings of theΒ  trio I still respect and admire – Sri Ramakrishnar/Sri Sarada Devi/Swami Vivekananda.

Apart from the mandated school visits, I started visiting the Ashram on my own with my friends and I also enrolled in VYASS – Vivekananda Youth Association for Service and Spirituality. Every Sunday afternoon, I used to spend at the Ashram debating the multi-facets of Vedanta satisfying the Spirituality part of the Group purposeΒ  and visiting orphanages and Government hospitals and taking part in voluntary services at those sites, for the Service part! I really loved reading books on Vedanta in the Library and though I did not know what I was learning, I was becoming more and more inquisitive of Adhvaitha philosophy which helped later in my life. I will get to that in a while.Β  I remember spending 5 days of a beautiful summer at a Youth camp held in Kodaikanal and how I got my father’s permission for that. I wrote a very touchy note requesting his permission and kept it in his lunch box, so he would discover that at his work and will have time to think about it without categorically saying No. And it worked!! I never imagined my parents would send me off to a Youth camp on my own with other VYASS members at the age of 15! May be I was a trust-worthy kid!

I remember how confused I felt when on the bus to Kodaikanal from Chennai, while the Swamijis who were chaperoning us were dozing in the front seats, the Vivekananda college students were singing cine songs in an Anthakshari game. Those were the Annas and Akkas I thought were so spiritually inclined! It was quite a learning curve for me, that it is is normal to behave normal too! Anyway it was an amazing camp, meeting teens from all over India and having very healthy debates and discussions. I was particularly psyched when a quote from me was selected to be published in the “Vedanta Weekly” in the Ramakrishna Mutt.Β  I hope I retained a copy of it. It would have been my first published material! Later there were many All India Youth camp right in Chennai that I attended too. Every time I used to be back from such camps, my parents would love me, as I would be in the BEST behavior till all that I learnt wear off slowly! Then I would pick up the books to refresh again! πŸ™‚ Anyway after one such camps, I came home all excited and told my mom that I found my destiny and that it was to join Sri Sarada mutt, she was absolutely aghast! She was like what did I pull my daughter from and where is she going!!

My parents sat with me and told me to complete my schooling and then college and even at that stage if I still feel the same way about joining the Mutt, they would consider. I still look back and appreciate the non-panic mode they were in, and how they let me come out of it on my own.. After schooling I joined Ethiraj College and my visits to the Mutt kind of dwindled and I decided I was wrong about my earlier vocation. πŸ™‚ In the later years, when I asked my dad how he was able to handle my eccentricities, his simple answer was he felt better off with my spiritual inclinations than the other kind of infatuations that he had expected of me at that age!! πŸ™‚ Anyway till I met my hubby I had little time to read more on the Spiritual literature. And you would think how Spirituality is connected to meeting the love of your life! It would, if you end up getting married to a person from aΒ  ‘different’ sect. When I knew I was getting married to an Iyengar guy, and how difficult it was for elders to digest even that, I ended up finding out how different we were. I found that the basic difference is not in the Gods but in the philosophy you were expected to follow. I truly believe I can be born to an Iyer family – followers of Advaitha philosophy and still be convinced with Vishishtadhvaitha philosophy and follow that. So that would make me an Iyengar technically! The same is true for an Iyengar who believes more in Advaitha philosophy. I also learnt, Shiva and Vishnu were just favorite Gods of the protagonists who propagated the respective philosophies and nothing suggests that followers of Advaitha philosophy should be devotees of Shiva and Vishishtadhvaitha, Vishnu. I do not speak of these lightly but with conviction because I did read a lot from both the philosophies.

Anyway I do not want to dwell too much in this , just that religion to me is nothing but love but most loveless acts originate from the so called religions these days, making one question even the validity of such religions. If you hurt someone physically or mentally in the name of religion that makes you an outcast and not a follower according to me. Who are we mortals to compare one God to another and think you are superior just because you follow one God versus another person who follows another God. Is it not true that all paths lead to the same destination? While you are on the path, how would you know you are on the right or even the faster path till you reach the destination, so how can you feel empowered enough to point out other person’s way as wrong! It never stops to stun me, these eccentricities in the humankind!!!

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It just seems so recently that my DH and I used to spell words so S wouldn’t understand what we were discussing, like if we want to suggest going out for dinner, we would go ‘Do you want to G-O O-U-T for D-I-N-N-E-R?”, so in case we both don’t agree, we wouldn’t have gotten S all excited!! And now S does the same thing to me all the time when she doesn’t want A to know what we are discussing!! It is amazing how time flies so fast!!

A is becoming such a naughty little boy with all DESTRUCTIVE personality!! He steps on the stepping stool, reaches for spices and throws them down the kitchen floor and also offers to clean-up messing it more! I have to be more innovative about hiding sharp and hot stuff from him. And it doesn’t help that he improvises on his plan every time, there is a continuous improvement process set in his ways! πŸ™‚

A is again mirroring S when it comes to dressing, yeah, a pretty strange thing to say about a boy, but that is the truth, may be my son will be a well-dressed handsome boy and that may be his trump card to impress girls! πŸ™‚ If he is around as I fold our washed laundry, he would end up changing T shirts as I pick a new one he likes from the lot.Β  And choosing the night suit is the toughest time, he cant decide which night suit he wants, the Thomas one or the CARS one or the Mickey mouse one! Most days his shirt will be a character and the pant would be another, if he is not able to decide on one!

S is totally into writing poems and songs and even composes tunes for her songs.. So apart from the little notes she leaves all around the house, she also surprises us with poems in every genre based on her mood! She strongly thinks her poems should rhyme, so she somehow logically ties her thoughts to rhyme! I am just so proud of her…. Here is the latest letter she gave me, when she was trying to placate me after a bad fight between us! Oh yeah, we fight a lot these days too!! It all seems like a prelude to the teenage years ahead…

Also I shared one of S’s funny posters at the blog http://www.stuffkidswrite.com and it got published. here is the link to it http://stuffkidswrite.com/2012/05/01/have-your-kids-get-better-grades/ . She had this poster at A’s birthday party so she can raise money for her Ipad. And she meant $10 and not 1 cent, she messed up with the decimal point and she regrets it so much now and believes parents would now ask her to teach their kids for 12 cents a year and not 120$ as she had planned! πŸ™‚

Whenever I start singing a nursery rhyme for A, he immediately says “STOP it Amma, put it in youtube”.. He has become a Youtube Whiz kid, knows exactly which ‘Wheels on the bus’ he likes, once we choose a link, he knows the exact link he wants to see next… I dont think I should feel proud about exposing him so much to computers, but I do need to take care of the household too!! Gone are the days when we used to tell S to not bother him, it is not always A who is after S troubling her when she is doing her homework or even studying.. So this is the sure shot way to make A busy, once we switch on the laptop. That too, he is very specific that we use only the home laptop and none of the work ones…:) He has this little quirks that make him adorable! One such quirk is that he would pick up the door we have to open when we are at any two door entrance. We can only open the door he points to, if by mistake we open the other one, he would just stand right where he is and will wait till we open the door he pointed to…

Also I don’t believe A will be a great fan of sharing either, even if I so much as try to login to my DH’s laptop he would stop me saying it is Pa’s laptop and lead me by hand to my laptop and ask me to use it. Same with the library books. it is so uncanny how he remembers who reads the book first, and in case the other one picks up the same book, it cannot be done when A is around because he would say, it is Amma’s book and take it away from my DH or the other way around.. He watches all our stuff and makes sure we don’t share! πŸ™‚ If I really annoy him or may be feed him food when he doesn’t feel like, he would point to the Kitchen and say ‘ Go to Kitchen, Amma’. It is ironic that my boy thinks Kitchen is my room and that once I am busy there, I would not bother him anymore…

This morning I was combing S’s hair and she kept complaining that I was hurting her, so I gave her a little mommy speech about how there is so much more in life and how she should be more tolerant to pain and hurt… S’s response to me verbatim is ‘Oh, I know at some point there will be hurt from romance andΒ  I know about it but is there anything else I need to be worried about?’ I was shocked but still I asked her to elaborate without showing her my shock, she was like “You know I may like a boy or someone may like me, if we don’t have the same feelings we may get hurt… I think I owe it to the various Disney Soaps she watches, that my little girl at 7 has learnt more about life than she should be knowing right now!Β  Oh then again, the very few Desi movies she has seen too apparently has taught her lots! I was watching Friend’s episode where Rachel Greene delivers her baby and I immediately switched channels, and asked S to stop looking at the TV and work on the problem I had given her, her reply was ” Amma, I have already seen it. Remember the three idiots movie.. ” I just dismissed that comment and moved on! πŸ™‚ Do I have any other choice??

A just turned 2 couple of weeks back and is ‘Officially’ now into the terrible two’s though unofficially he has been there for a few months now.. We had a Disney Cars themed party and he loved the decorations and the cake… Of course as he hates to get messy at anytime, the moment the icing got stuck in his finger, he froze during cake cutting till his finger was cleaned with a tissue. He sure is one funny boy!! It is also extremely funny how he lines up all his cars/trucks anything with wheels as in a garage and uses the toy car remote key on them and pretends the work.

S appeared in a Carnatic music festival competition here in the town and I just signed her up for experience as it is just months since we started regular lessons for her. I coached her on how she should introduce herself and the Geetham she is to sing and we worked on it the day before the competition so much. But she woke up with a strained voice and a bad cold on the day of the competition. Still we took her and she was the first to be called upon. One of the judges asked her what she was going to sing and she just answered him and straight off started the Geetham without the introductions and the Aalab that preludes it. She did do a good job but I was plenty upset with her for not listening to me and disregarding all that I taught her. We stayed back for the next 10 participants who were all good and did the introduction and everything well. On the way back home, we were doing a postmortem of all that went wrong that morning and believe me, drawing limits on parenting and being nice all the time is difficult. I was upset more because, in spite of the good job she did she was going to miss all the points for presentation.. Anyway we did not take her to the prize announcement ceremony the next day and guess what happened, she did win the third prize among the 25 participants and most of the others were much older to her as well. Now she has a Trophy that says Carnatic Star and she had a smug smile on her face all the day, but she was nice enough not to tell me “See Lady, what happened?” but “May be I would have got the first prize if I had done what you told me to”. So that is my sweet girl S!

I think I should be more regular atleast with the Antics series. I have written quite a lot and still there is so much more to share! πŸ™‚

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I have been a slacker mom these days! It feels awful to be a bad mom, I mean the one role I really cherish and thank God everyday for, if I cant keep up this role, what am I doing really?? have no clue really.. Anyway it is all due to the work pressure and also the sudden fitness rage I am in, so the evenings when I spend time with the kids are spent at the fitness center with the kids either at the pool or at the Kids daycare.Β  All this is however just my ramblings, my happy kids are not bothered by my absences and are busy in their own way. In fact it makes me wonder if parenting is overrated and as long as the basic needs are met, the kids just grow on their own and build their own personalities with no interference from either parents. πŸ™‚ A point worth pondering for a later day…

A is getting to be more and more independent and is even showing signs of being ready for potty training but it is me who is not taking the initiative to support him!! He is getting to be such a stickler for routines, and doesn’t want them upset in any way. He even has the order in which I should dress him for outside, the jacket first, then the gloves, that too right hand followed by left and then the cap. If I change any of this, he protests! πŸ™‚ And the minute he comes home, he goes to the closet to change from his outside clothes. In many ways he is so much like my DH and so we have S who is like me not that organized and A like V, totally freaking out with changes to routines

Some day last week, S was ready for school a full 10 minutes early and I thought why not comb her hair! Yes, S just leaves her hair down and claims that she does comb but it never looks like that. But I don’t bother much as anyway with her cap or the hoodie on, it would get ruffled anyway. S got a set of very cute small crab clips from my SIL, so I was just parting her hair in small bunches and used the crab clips generously! It looked quite cute and she was like awww it is so nice Amma. She then said, since it suited her very well, it would suit her daughter as well, so was wondering if I could save those clips for her and pass them to her when she has her daughter and she also wanted me to teach her to do that as well so she can repeat this to her daughter! I was like you just turned 7 Maam! But the best is yet to come, she stopped her talk for a moment and said she had the most brilliant idea ever. And that brilliant idea was to have me born as her daughter in my next life so she doesn’t have to even talk about me and I would know all about me and S when she was my daughter. I had nothing more to add and thankfully the conversation ended as she had to leave then to catch the school bus.

A has his own laptop, a hand-me-down from my DH.. He watches his favorite videos on the laptop, and gets very upset when the laptop hangs up on him!! The other day the system crashed, he was pointing his finger at the laptop and shouted, ‘BAD JOBBB’. It was so cute to watch him do that.. Hez getting very vocal and expressive and very cutely chants ‘Momma Momma’ when I get down from the car say for a quick errand, and keeps chanting much to S and my DH’s dismay, till I get back! At times, A would say “YES” when I ask him if he is ready for lunch, and when he ends up seeing ‘the lunch’ and realizes he really doesn’t want it, would start shouting “No YES Amma” repeatedly!! πŸ™‚

S’s seriously into writing in her diary daily these days and makes such a fuss even if one of us get near it by mistake. But the other day she graciously gave me and my DH one-day passes to look into her diary. The pass even had an expiration date and what to do if it gets misplaced! πŸ™‚ She is reading this Wonders of the World book and is totally hooked onto the Mount Everest and she told me she was going to write a ‘biography’ on the Mount Everest! She is also working on her own dictionary, writing all the new words she is learning cataloged into her notebook as in a dictionary.

S is in the girl scouts and understandably the last few weeks were busy for us with all the cookie-selling. She acted like totally an ambassador for girl scouts and were even coaxing people who said they already had bought from some other girl, she was quick to add, that girl scout cookies were good to be frozen and can be had even 6 months later! She was also addressing the nut allergic, calorie conscious crowd as well.Β  She started selling the cookies around Valentine’s day and was trying to convince people that the cookies would make good Valentine day gift to friends and family! It was really funny watching her achieve her sales goal..

Last week, I had been to her school to meet her teacher for the II semester assessment. S was preparing me the whole day and wanted to know what would I discuss with the teacher. She was also giving offhand remarks about the reflections they do at school when someone does a bad job and she said her teacher may bring that up! I never knew she had reflections till then, so asked her what hers would be about, she was like nothing significant amma just a couple of times when I was chitchatting during activity and stuff like that. She also suggested to me that she will ask her teacher to add a goal for her to not exceed 10 reflections this year she already has 6 and that leaves only 4 more for the rest of the year. She was quite upset later in the evening, when she realized her teacher had not planned to bring about her reflections at all as they were quite minor. She felt she jumped guns unnecessarily!Β  Her teacher and I had quite a laugh about it!

S’s teacher was showcasing to me all that had been worked upon that semester and she showed me a chart with S’s essay on what all she would do if she is elected to be the President. Her teacher pointed out how sensible her points were starting from giving homes to homeless people, and writing laws about not allowing anyone to use swear words ever.Β  She did have a bullet point about building her own ‘WHITE HOUSE’ though!! Then came the most surprising part, looks like all kids had a draft notice first before redoing it in the chart paper. She showed her draft from her journal at school and her draft of things she would do when she becomes the President ran to FOUR whole A4 size sheets! πŸ™‚Β  Both her teacher and I were surprised!! I heard for the second time now from her II grade teacher that S does have ‘President’ material and she may become one in India or here in the US! πŸ™‚ The first time I heard someone tell me S would one day be the President of India was her daycare teacher when she was 3 yrs old; when I laughed at her teacher’s suggestion, her day care teacher ended our Parent-Teacher conference by saying a prayer to God to help us – S’s parents, recognize the potential in S. πŸ™‚

We went to A’s daycare for his conference as well last week and that was quite interesting too! The teacher said he is really getting ready to play with other kids, but he is so sophisticated than other kids in the sense that when the kids fight, he moves away, doesn’t want to get messy even during the MESSY play time! The minute his hands become dirty with paint or play dough, he immediately asks the teacher to wash his hands and then all he does is watch others like a big man! His teacher also said, he is so hung up on routines and will wait for his hands to be washed right after his meal and also wait for his teacher to wash her hands! He never forgets a thing and makes sure he brings home anything that he has taken to school that morning. And here his sister S even forgot to bring her school bag from school the other day! πŸ™‚ It is funny to watch such contrast in them! I guess God just wanted our lives to be interesting all the time, making them both out of entirely different molds!

My in-laws are here with us and both the kids are having lots of fun with them! There is nothing like the pampering you receive from grand parents and they are now enjoying all the extra attention!!

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S and A play together a lot these days and A is such a copy cat and tends to do all that S does and even occasionally wear S’s necklaces! I wonder if I can encourage all this cross dressing.. πŸ™‚ But I guess he will learn on his own and stay away later… Seems too premature to stop him from all the innocent enjoyment…Β  We got S so many stuffed toys when she was growing up, but she wouldn’t play with them much. But A is forever cuddling Mickey mouse, Minnie mouse and Goofy. He cutely holds them to his chest and carries them over to the bed, for his naptime these days. The royal treatment given to CARS has been transferred to the Mickey family now.. πŸ™‚

A is totally into Ice age Scrat, and in the last few weeks would have watched the three parts at least three times! Β  He even seems to follow the story a little bit to our amazement, and his sister also keep narrating the story to him. There is this scene in the Dinosaur part where Sid would mistake an Ox for a cow and try getting milk forΒ  the dinosaur babies. In a minute, he would be running away shouting “I thought you were a female!” S was ‘explaining’ this scene to A and he laughed as if he understood! It is like he doesn’t want to disappoint S, so he plays along with her all the time. I really wish they grow up sharing this special bond always.

As much as S still complains to me about my singular attention to A, she truly is excited when A says new words.. Like the other day we were watching an old video of S and it was her first birthday party, immediately A started singing cutely ‘APPY BDAY TOUU’Β  all in one word. We never knew till that moment he had learnt that. He seems to pick up a lot from his daycare and we learn it in moments like this. S was so excited that she gave a huge hug to him and was telling him she is SO proud of him!!! A was beaming with joy and kept repeating it to get the same attention from her. Those are moments I wish I could freeze forever in my memory.

A’s vocab – at least those we know as of now that he can say :

1. I wan Sheeseee – He says waiting near the Fridge holding a cup and spoon he would take from the dishwasher. Cottage cheese still tops his fav food list, in fact fills the later positions too!Β  πŸ™‚

2. I wan waterrr – He says waterrr with a twist in the R thats so cute and he asks water not for drinking but to

  • either wash his hot wheels car or choo choo train
  • put his bourbon biscuit in and mash it to a gooey and use it to color his toys
  • clean our table, laptops if he can, and then ask for tishu (tissue) to clean them up.

3. Go ouside He takes our hand and leads us to the main door and says “Go ousidee”. If our shoes are outside the closet, he would bring them to us and say “Go ouside” . He is really an outdoorsy person, hates to come back home after shopping trips. He would not even care about his meals when we are out, he can skip meals, naps, anything to be out with us. S used to be like that too; somehow I am blessed with two kids who don’t get cranky even if I change their schedule upside down.

4. Santa Santa, Ho Ho Ho – Holiday time of the year and A now knows the lovable Santa and cutely repeats “Santa Santa, Ho Ho Ho” ,whenever he sees a Christmas tree or any bright setting with shades of green and red in it! πŸ™‚

5. Horshee and Dog – He knows Dog quite well andΒ  Horse is everything that has four legs and not dog! Even elephant is a horshee for him right now.

6. Washsh – The moment there is some cereal or food onΒ  his hand or cheek, he would immediately want to wash up, also he thinks once I wash his face, his food time is done! πŸ™‚ so tries to take that shortcut at times to avoid food…. also he takes tissue from us when his tshirt gets wet and tries to wipe off the wetness!!

7. Stickerr – He loves the stickers he gets at the Drs office and says stickerr over and over till we come home. He holds on to it dearly!

Apart from all this he does talk a lot, but just that we have not figured them out yet!! πŸ™‚

A also watches Toy story, all the three parts and the best is his reaction to the movie scenes. When the mean dog goes after Woody or Buzz, he would close his mouth with his fingers and say Doggg… πŸ™‚ He has the cutest ever fear in his face for Buzz/Woody! For those who follow Tamil movies, his reaction is comparable to Saroja Devi’s ooohh reaction to MGR!

I have to mark 31st Dec 2011 in our lives, as that was the first day A and my DH fought! A was in a yet another naughty spree where he was throwing his toys all around theΒ  living room. My DH raised his voice against him and told him to cleanup, A was all worked up at the reaction and he was non-stop ‘talking’ back to V. He would talk few gibberish sentences, move away from V, may be to take a deep breath (:) and then come back to shout again.. It was soooooooooo cute that I just wanted to lift him and cuddle him. But dint want to break the moment too. V cudn’t help laughing and we all started laughing so hard that A looked at the three of us like, why wud he be part of this lunatic family!! πŸ™‚

Now onto S… Last week when we were traveling in our car, S got so bored with the GPS voice that she said she wished there was a mute setting in the GPS and before I could ask her how we would get the directions then, she said the GPS in the mute setting, should have captioning for what it says and that we should follow that to drive around! πŸ™‚

December was the month S looked forward so much – being her bday month… It did turn out to be awesome for her. She had her dream party at the Y and 14 of her 18 classmates attended her party and with all the holiday sales on, she got the best presents ever! πŸ™‚ She got a beautiful necklace with S as a rhinestone pendant from a boy in her class who apparently according to her, has a crush on her! OMG was my reaction though I didnt show it out. I did not know of the word Crush till I was 17 years old, of course I did know the feeling but dint know the word for it! πŸ™‚ And here my daughter loosely uses it at 7! There is already a generation gap….

The December agenda in her class at school was discussion of holiday traditions. When the teacher has initiated a discussion on Christmas, S had told her that she doesn’t celebrate the holiday and when questioned, had gone on to explain how Diwali is the most important festival for Hindus et al! She has also offered to her teacher that she can call me to come to the class and explain to everyone. Promptly her teacher mailed me about her idea and asked if I can present to the kids some information about Diwali.Β  Just the earlier week, I had substituted for her SS teacher at the Indian school she attends on Saturday. It was a surprise for her to see me at the class that day and she was thrilled to have me there and was beaming all through the class. Her hands shot up for every question and was disappointed I dint pick her up every time! Even after the class, she was telling her friends that it was her mom who was there and she was later asking me if I can do that often! So when she sensed another opportunity at her regular school she had volunteered my services!

Anyway the long story short, with my dear friend G’s help I had a kids-friendly presentation and it was an instant hit at the class. S was again super thrilled and we were both dressed in our ethnic wear at school. Her teacher appreciated S that she was so bold and did not feel shy to be different when they were discussing Christmas and she was asking me how I taught her to be like that. She said most kids wouldn’t want to be different so would just nod for everything. She said S was almost proud when she spoke about Diwali! I was happy hearing that but was thinking, “Lady, you call that pride, but knowing my daughter, it is more like Arrogance! ” πŸ™‚ Anyway jokes apart, I was indeed proud that she was feeling confident enough to tell a diverse crowd about her background!

It is such a blessing to watch the duo grow up and I am enjoying every moment of this!! More to come soon… I still haven’t talked about S’s party and her special month! πŸ™‚

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Scene 1 : S very seriously told A the other day that he really has to learn all about ROMANCE.. The capitalization is for the stress she gave to the word! They both were watching a Tom n Jerry show where Tom fancies a she-cat and Jerry sabotages their date! I was about to ask her what she actually knew about it, but stopped myself as I wasn’t sure I was ready for the answer! πŸ™‚

Scene 2: A and I were waiting for S’s school bus outside our apartment. S comes in and A is all super-excited just seeing the bus and ta-da, she rushes to him and gives him a big bear hug and kisses him in both the cheeks. A beams at me with joy, unsure of how to react to this sudden expression of affection from S! Usually it is A who dotes on S and she hardly pays attention to him! Looks like that day S read a story at school about a mean sister and how she taunts her baby brother, so it had struck her that may be she was being a litttle bit mean to A, hence the special attention. Of course, it goes without saying that she forgot that story part from the next day.. It was just a singular moment of truth for her!!

Scene 3: A runs after a boy in our apartment quite innocently and S shouts after him, “A, you are not supposed to like boys, you have to run after girls! Remember that!”Β  Quite an embarrassing moment, as there were quite a number of people around! Anyway S at least for now thinks heterosexuality is the way to go! SO good for me.. πŸ™‚

Scene 4: I am in the kitchen (as always :() and I hear A laughing aloud!! I run to him and there he is holding a book upside down and finding the characters hilarious! May be becoz they were upside down, God only knows, but of late he goes over his books on his own and laughs at certain pages quite knowingly!! It is REALLY a fun sight to behold… He is growing up to be a very happy and contended child, very much like his sister.

Scene 5: S sometimes fixes her own breakfast. She was looking for butter one day in the fridge and found out much to her dismay that V has kept the butter in the freezer by mistake! She gave us both a warning about not to repeat this again, and still was not convinced that we would remember that. She wrote on bright fluorescent post-its and stuck on the fridge. Her message was”

Dear Mommy and Daddy, The butter goes in the fridge! NOT THE FREEZER!!! From: S

And she also had a Post-it on the freezer door that said “See Notes Please” and an arrow mark pointing down to her post-it. As a matter of adding redundancy to prevent the mistake, she had another post-it next to the Fridge door! πŸ™‚

Here is the picture of her post-its.. Isn’t she funny?

Scene 6: S asks this question to us out of the blue. “Did you guys give birth to me, so you will always have someone to scold?” She was so serious that we just couldn’t dismiss that remark.Β  Granted we have been a little demanding once her school began, and mostly it had to do with keeping her things organized and be a little more careful around A and not litter stuff that A should not be playing with. Looks like she has really taken all that to heart and has thought it over and cornered us with that question. After an hour long discussion, she was kind of ok, still we are going to be watching for early signs before she bursts out again! It is really tough to be tough with her! πŸ™‚

Scene 7: S thinks making spelling mistakes is alright as the rules are very stupid according to her. Why would you have a silent letter when you are not going to pronounce the letter. And how come two exact same spellings be pronounced in two different ways based on the context. She says if someone has made these silly rules, she can make her own rules too! These days kids live by their own rules, I mean they just dont take anything for granted and need explanations! Talking of rules, she has also prepared her own set of Math rules! πŸ™‚ All sorts of cheat codes already like adding a 9 to a single digit number is reduce the number by 1 and add 10. It was quite an interesting read, the way her mind worked. Nothing defies logic, still it was her own logic and inference.. In the same context, one homework paper from school had a list of single digit additions and at the end there was a space to explain the reasoning for the answer to at least one of the problems in the list. S’s answer in the note was “I dont know, I just knew the answer.” See this.. πŸ™‚ She has been doing single digit additions already in her last school may be she was bored. I usually never correct her home work as a principle. If she makes a mistake, it is up to the teacher to correct her and believe me kids react better to the teacher’s comments than the mother’s!

Scene 8:The moment our car pulls into our parking lot, A starts crying. He hates to get back home, he would rather keep going someplace or the other rather than returning! Even when we just lift him and bring him in, he flatly would refuse to take his coat and shoes off, thinking there would still be a chance of going out as long he doesn’t change! It is getting to be too much trouble everyday after he is back from the daycare. We have to perform all kinds of theatrics to get him to remove them! This, from a boy who refused to sit on the car seat and used to cry even when we were traveling for an hour day trip, what can I say!! With kids, change is the only constant phenomenon!

Scene 9: A has discovered the world of communication by actions! He is mastering the ability to communicate perfectly without using a single word, with just actions and prompting sounds that tell us if we have understood him or not. He would take us by holding our finger to wherever the place of action is and then point to what he wants and then do an action, like drink to tell us what he wants. If we pick up the wrong item, he would vehemently shake his head from side to side and hit once on his head to highlight how stupid we are not understanding him! πŸ™‚Β  If we do pick up the right item, he would clap his hands to appreciate our good job! πŸ™‚Β  Whenever he does a good job, we would clap and encourage him and also say Good job, now he uses the same tactic with us without actually saying ‘Good job’! πŸ™‚ Hez such a funny little fellow!

Scene 10: A does this scrunched-up nose routine when he is up to some mischief! When we are all watching some show on the TV quite seriously, he would just march in and switch off the TV main button and turn to us and would scrunch-up his nose and his eyes would glitter with the joy ofΒ  doing something worthwhile grabbing our attention! And the moment we start saying Bad Job A, he would get sober and the second he hears No as part of any phrase, No A, or No way, or Not a good job, he would crack up and close his eyes with his little hands and fake cry would start! I am smiling even as I am writing this.. It would be so funny to watch him that we would crack up and laugh, then he would immediately stop the cry and flash his million-dollar smile at us and run to us! Needless to add, S will be like, ‘You guys are never tough on him..” πŸ™‚

I guess I am really going overboard with all this stuff.. There seems to be so much to add but I guess they can wait for another post!

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