Archive for June 7th, 2011

I feel guilty today about being away from my parents and in-laws.ย  Of course it is the job that took us away, still when I see my son A’s open smile and his naughty ways that only my hubby and I covet right now, it doesn’t seem right. The grandparents would have LOVED to see him like this. He is such a happy child and it is a joy to watch him all day!!

Love and affection always skips a generation and the kids are more attached to the grand parents and vice-verse… May be because they both have common enemies. ๐Ÿ™‚ Also grand parents are not directly accountable in raising the grand kids so they can do all the pampering without worrying about spoiling them, whereas the parents would be questioned even by the very same grandparents if the kids behave unruly or inappropriately! That is quite ironic right!

I remember how I really used to watch how I discipline my own daughter as if I was performing before a reality show. It is because right after the episode, I would get a mouthful of how I should actually discipline and how it may actually backfire to me. It will all be said in good intent and here I am not isolating my in-laws, even my parents used to do just that.. However what they don’t realize is there is no RIGHT way of raising a kid and it is mostly by trial and error that parents achieve the desired results. Also the exposure the kid gets outside the home and his/her friendships all go a long way in shaping the kid. I never thought I would ever be harsh to my kid but it was not to be as she grew up really independent and strong headed. I wasn’t prepared for how soon that change came in her from her earlier innocent self.. Of course both my hubby and I have very strong personalities so what else could I have expected from my daughter! Still it was a surprise to expect pre-teens behavior this early in the childhood..ย  ๐Ÿ™‚

Anyways as always am branching out..ย  To get back to my original discussion, I may have some web cam chats scheduled in the next two days to wash off my guilt! ๐Ÿ™‚


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I am so sorry!

Something weird is happening to me right now. I reach out to two of my good friends from my past, this week and find both of them in the middle of a personal crisis. I am honest to God that I had NO idea they were having a tough tide in their relationship. However it kind of amounted to prying when I was like checking on them innocently. I really hope they dont think I had heard about their trouble from some common friend and was trying to get juice from them.. Oh my!! Why did I chose now… ๐Ÿ˜ฆ It is not that I am close enough to them to advise or help them feel better. But I do feel close enough to feel bad for them and have them in my prayers. I definitely don’t want them to be mad at me or think “You too? Priya!!” ๐Ÿ˜ฆ

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Funny me!

I dont remember when I spoke to anybody in the recent years for straight 5 minutes without a reference to my children. I dont recollect when that transition occurred may be somewhere around 2004 ๐Ÿ™‚ย  Not that I am upset or anything; still it is like I seem to have expanded myself to include my children as well. So when I think of me, I instantly think of my children first! Like today my friend asked when it would be a good time to talk to me and my answer was “you can call me anytime before 9.30 pm in the night… Thats when A would finally be asleep after his busy day!! He hardly sleeps during the day inspite of waking up at 7.00 am. And S wudnt even be asleep by 9.30 but she will be busy reading her library books anyway!” By any standards I think it was quite an extra information I gave to my friend.. Atleast before A arrived, it was only one kid I spoke about, now it is either I talk about both of them or not mention them at allย  and believe me or not it takes so much effort to not mention them in my talk!!ย  I recently jeopardized my job opportunity with a popular IT company talking too much about my kids. The headhunter probably thought he would be hiring the three of us and end up paying for the three of us! ๐Ÿ™‚ So now I try not to mention my kids when I talk to recruiters.. That said you would think the employers will be a little more sympathetic to moms! It is not that being mothers would affect the work in fact the mothers would complete tasks faster and waste little time at work to be back home with their kids.. That fact seems to escape some employers!! anyway as always I am branching out.. I will leave the companies alone for now…

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